My daughter was told her name-brand pants must be fake. Harsh, right? I thought so too, especially because the person who said it has been a “friend” of hers for 3 years.
I am a single mom. I pay my bills on time. I own my house. We eat healthy foods, and we do fun things together as a family. We live simply, without fancy things, but we live, and we enjoy quality time together.
I know this “fake pants” accusation shouldn’t bother me as much as it has. I know that I tend to be a bit sensitive about things I should probably just let go of.
It took me back though, to that dreadful day in 6th grade when the popular girls told me I couldn’t wear my black Guess jeans.
“Why are YOU wearing THOSE jeans???,” they asked me, laughing.
I didn’t respond. I wore them as often as I wanted to, and probably pranced around a little more on those days. Who were THEY to tell me what I could and and couldn’t wear???
It made me realize how shallow they were.
They found their value in the brand of clothes their parents could afford.
I hope that my daughter realizes that her value has NOTHING to do with the brand stamped on her authentic pants! My daughter is, and always will be, valued because of who she is, not what she wears.
My daughter still calls this person a friend. She still invites her along with us. She sees past the accusation. I suppose I should do.
I hope her friend knows how fortunate she is to receive grace from my daughter. I hope I can offer the same.
I also hope that someday, the world won’t be so harsh.
I am so thankful to have raised a daughter who sees people beyond their shortcomings.
One day, we will reach a place where there is no judgment. Our value will not be determined by anything other than who we are and whose we are.
Fake pants, authentic pants, invisible pants… none of it will matter.